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1 00:00:18,385 --> 00:00:20,620 This is Lead 12:12,2 00:00:20,954 --> 00:00:25,191 a podcast on Christ centered leadership based on Romans 12:12.3 00:00:25,358 --> 00:00:26,459 Rejoice and hope.4 00:00:26,459 --> 00:00:29,562 Be patient and tribulation, be constant in prayer.5 00:00:30,063 --> 00:00:31,331 Thanks for listening.6 00:00:31,331 --> 00:00:33,900 Now here's Chris and Dave.7 00:00:34,534 --> 00:00:35,702 Hey everybody.8 00:00:35,702 --> 00:00:37,837 It's good to see you. Well, I don't see you, actually.9 00:00:37,871 --> 00:00:40,807 It's good to be here with you. Hopefully, you're doing good.10 00:00:40,807 --> 00:00:43,343 You had a great Christmas looking for the new year.11 00:00:43,343 --> 00:00:44,944 We hope you have a great new year,12 00:00:44,944 --> 00:00:49,049 and we're excited just to talk to you for a few minutes on leadership.13 00:00:49,115 --> 00:00:50,884 Thanks for putting up with us.14 00:00:50,884 --> 00:00:52,552 So here's my friend Chris.15 00:00:52,552 --> 00:00:54,487 Thank you. David, did you have a good Christmas.16 00:00:54,487 --> 00:00:58,425 I had an incredible Christmas, blessed way better than I deserve.17 00:00:58,458 --> 00:00:59,259 Oh, me too.18 00:00:59,259 --> 00:01:01,961 That's just wonderful. It makes my heart happy. Hey, man.19 00:01:02,028 --> 00:01:02,796 And I'm in.20 00:01:04,297 --> 00:01:07,333 So, Dave, we're going to talk about the authentic leadership approach.21 00:01:07,367 --> 00:01:08,034 It's awesome.22 00:01:08,034 --> 00:01:10,437 This is one of the newest leadership approaches.23 00:01:10,437 --> 00:01:14,274 In fact, it is the newest leadership approach available, and because of that,24 00:01:14,274 --> 00:01:16,843 there's not a tremendous amount of studies available on it.25 00:01:16,943 --> 00:01:17,744 I gotcha.26 00:01:17,744 --> 00:01:18,411 That's great.27 00:01:18,411 --> 00:01:22,348 Dave, you know, we live in an era in which the distinction between reality28 00:01:22,348 --> 00:01:25,919 and authenticity has become completely blurred and ambiguous.29 00:01:26,052 --> 00:01:26,753 100%.30 00:01:26,753 --> 00:01:30,590 Have you seen a TV show about strangers marrying strangers,31 00:01:30,590 --> 00:01:34,994 or maybe celebrity housewives and husbands or one family keeping up with another?32 00:01:35,028 --> 00:01:36,296 There's a ton of those out there.33 00:01:36,296 --> 00:01:39,999 Yeah, there's a lot, and it's not a good way to do life.34 00:01:40,033 --> 00:01:44,804 No, honestly, believe it or not, those reality TV shows typically don't35 00:01:44,804 --> 00:01:48,775 bear any resemblance to the realities most of us live or experience daily.36 00:01:48,775 --> 00:01:50,043 Amen. Good point.37 00:01:50,043 --> 00:01:53,012 So I want to start with something called a reality leader.38 00:01:53,046 --> 00:01:57,550 What is a reality leader and how is it different than an authentic leader? Go.39 00:01:57,584 --> 00:01:58,384 I'm excited.40 00:01:58,384 --> 00:02:02,522 A reality leader is on television, and maybe you've met one in real life.41 00:02:02,722 --> 00:02:04,891 Leadership is entirely about them.42 00:02:05,658 --> 00:02:08,261 Followers exist only to serve them.43 00:02:08,294 --> 00:02:11,131 They love soundbites, photo ops and handshakes,44 00:02:11,131 --> 00:02:14,501 and they say things because they believe it's what the public wants to hear.45 00:02:14,534 --> 00:02:17,770 They practice something that I like to call invisible transparency,46 00:02:17,770 --> 00:02:20,373 which means they are transparent only about the information47 00:02:20,373 --> 00:02:23,643 they want you to know and only when it benefits them.48 00:02:23,643 --> 00:02:24,344 That's good.49 00:02:24,344 --> 00:02:25,979 With that in hand, you know,50 00:02:25,979 --> 00:02:30,083 I've been in ministry for almost 25 years or more, and there are guys51 00:02:30,083 --> 00:02:33,119 that are in the ministry just because they they like to be seen.52 00:02:33,153 --> 00:02:33,920 Yes. And see,53 00:02:33,920 --> 00:02:35,421 I think that's part of the problem54 00:02:35,421 --> 00:02:39,359 because it shouldn't be about us being same about God's being seen in us55 00:02:39,759 --> 00:02:41,961 and it's not about anything else but that.56 00:02:42,095 --> 00:02:43,730 But I do think we have that.57 00:02:43,730 --> 00:02:46,432 My favorite thing, I'm sure we used to hear what is an ego.58 00:02:46,633 --> 00:02:49,335 It's edging got out, edging God. And I really love this.59 00:02:49,335 --> 00:02:52,038 So when you're all about you, you're edging.60 00:02:52,038 --> 00:02:53,840 Got out, you're not.61 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:55,542 And he may come on now.62 00:02:55,542 --> 00:02:59,379 Come on, I'm about ready to throw something down here, right?63 00:02:59,412 --> 00:03:03,349 But it's important that we get that because I think we need to understand64 00:03:03,349 --> 00:03:05,018 it's not about us. Exactly.65 00:03:05,018 --> 00:03:07,987 Can't be about us, especially in Christian leadership.66 00:03:07,987 --> 00:03:10,223 It has to be about giving God the glory.67 00:03:10,256 --> 00:03:12,358 God, you are on fire and it's good.68 00:03:12,392 --> 00:03:14,594 You are one step ahead on authentic leadership,69 00:03:14,627 --> 00:03:17,730 but unfortunately the reality leaders are everywhere.70 00:03:17,730 --> 00:03:18,932 They're at work and school.71 00:03:18,932 --> 00:03:21,201 And like you said, yeah, many even at church.72 00:03:21,201 --> 00:03:22,502 Yep, they are.73 00:03:22,502 --> 00:03:25,371 They have mastered the art of excluding God.74 00:03:25,371 --> 00:03:28,341 That's the biggest message you can get into when you exclude God.75 00:03:28,508 --> 00:03:32,345 So now that we know what reality leadership is, what is authentic76 00:03:32,345 --> 00:03:35,481 leadership, authentic leadership is not about the ego.77 00:03:35,848 --> 00:03:37,383 Here's a great example.78 00:03:37,383 --> 00:03:41,054 Jesus did not puff out his chest and demand everyone do his wishes79 00:03:41,054 --> 00:03:42,589 because he's the boss.80 00:03:42,589 --> 00:03:44,891 That's right. He could have. Because he was. Absolutely.81 00:03:44,891 --> 00:03:48,361 And when you think of humility who embodies that more than Jesus,82 00:03:48,861 --> 00:03:50,897 he laid down his life for every one of us.83 00:03:50,930 --> 00:03:53,900 He did so authentic leadership was founded by84 00:03:53,900 --> 00:03:57,770 a person named Bill George, and this only started in 2003.85 00:03:57,804 --> 00:03:59,606 The premise behind authentic leadership86 00:03:59,606 --> 00:04:02,942 is that the key to being a successful leader is being yourself.87 00:04:03,209 --> 00:04:04,611 And here's a couple of quotes for you.88 00:04:04,611 --> 00:04:08,314 first one is from Hamlet and Shakespeare to thine own self be true.89 00:04:08,348 --> 00:04:10,383 But now here's another interesting quote.90 00:04:10,383 --> 00:04:13,453 I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me91 00:04:13,453 --> 00:04:15,088 as rich as I have become.92 00:04:15,088 --> 00:04:17,557 And if I had, I would have done it a lot earlier.93 00:04:17,690 --> 00:04:19,092 That's from Oprah Winfrey.94 00:04:19,092 --> 00:04:20,660 Wow, that's interesting.95 00:04:20,660 --> 00:04:23,129 That's very I did not see that quote coming.96 00:04:23,129 --> 00:04:25,832 She's her authentic self and took her a while to get there.97 00:04:25,832 --> 00:04:26,933 But that's who she is.98 00:04:26,933 --> 00:04:29,936 Well, and I do think that's who we should be is our authentic self,99 00:04:29,936 --> 00:04:33,906 not Oprah Winfrey, but we should be authentic self for Jesus.100 00:04:35,375 --> 00:04:36,776 So it should thank you.101 00:04:36,776 --> 00:04:38,211 Thank you very much. Genuine.102 00:04:38,211 --> 00:04:41,080 This is a central component of authentic leadership,103 00:04:41,381 --> 00:04:44,250 and that means that each authentic leader is unique.104 00:04:44,250 --> 00:04:46,252 No two authentic leaders are alike.105 00:04:46,286 --> 00:04:49,455 However, there are several characteristics that they all share.106 00:04:49,455 --> 00:04:52,191 Even though each one's different, they all have these characteristics.107 00:04:52,558 --> 00:04:53,559 The first one is that108 00:04:53,559 --> 00:04:57,597 they consistently demonstrate behaviors that inspire trust in others.109 00:04:57,830 --> 00:04:59,432 Amen. Amen.110 00:04:59,432 --> 00:05:03,636 The second one is what I think separates a lot of leaders from authentic leaders.111 00:05:03,636 --> 00:05:05,872 They take ownership of their own actions,112 00:05:05,872 --> 00:05:09,142 and when they make a mistake, they take responsibility for their errors.113 00:05:09,409 --> 00:05:11,678 Amen. All Christian principles.114 00:05:11,678 --> 00:05:13,646 These are all Christ centered principles,115 00:05:13,646 --> 00:05:16,549 exactly what we try to do every every time we come on.116 00:05:16,549 --> 00:05:19,319 This is to give people. Samples, and that's perfect.117 00:05:19,452 --> 00:05:20,853 You're absolutely right.118 00:05:20,853 --> 00:05:25,425 Yeah, that's that's where you go in that that that's all you right there.119 00:05:25,725 --> 00:05:27,527 You got that applause.120 00:05:27,527 --> 00:05:31,631 The last one of these characteristics is they demonstrate the necessary courage121 00:05:31,631 --> 00:05:33,466 to advance up the leadership ladder122 00:05:33,466 --> 00:05:37,470 and to challenge the status quo or to defend their people and processes.123 00:05:37,537 --> 00:05:40,006 That's right. They won't throw you under the bus.124 00:05:40,006 --> 00:05:42,809 They don't sell you out and their word is their bond.125 00:05:43,276 --> 00:05:44,344 That's hard to find.126 00:05:44,344 --> 00:05:48,214 The day, Chris is guys are people that they won't throw you under the bus.127 00:05:48,247 --> 00:05:50,416 It's not about them. And when they get in trouble,128 00:05:50,416 --> 00:05:53,353 they take the blame and the world we live in today.129 00:05:53,353 --> 00:05:55,955 So many times it's like we blame everything130 00:05:55,955 --> 00:05:59,859 and we play the blame game on every aspect of life.131 00:05:59,892 --> 00:06:01,060 Even Christians do this,132 00:06:01,060 --> 00:06:03,096 and this is something that we can't do anymore133 00:06:03,096 --> 00:06:05,732 because sometimes we need to own up to, well, you know what?134 00:06:05,965 --> 00:06:07,200 I just messed up.135 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:10,603 I just made a mistake and say, Hey,136 00:06:10,670 --> 00:06:13,840 well, I'm Christian, I you and I've taught this time we're going to screw up.137 00:06:13,840 --> 00:06:15,274 That's why that's right.138 00:06:15,274 --> 00:06:18,945 But if we screw up and we own it, God will bless tenfold.139 00:06:18,945 --> 00:06:20,980 I believe that with all my heart. Don't you think so?140 00:06:20,980 --> 00:06:23,549 I absolutely believe that 100%.141 00:06:23,683 --> 00:06:26,853 So speaking of what you were talking about and this really carries over.142 00:06:26,886 --> 00:06:28,121 Studies have found that today143 00:06:28,121 --> 00:06:31,224 people are very insecure about what's going on around them.144 00:06:31,224 --> 00:06:33,126 You know, the shape of the world we're in, right?145 00:06:33,126 --> 00:06:34,127 What's been going on?146 00:06:34,127 --> 00:06:35,228 And as a result of that,147 00:06:35,228 --> 00:06:38,698 the need for authentic leadership is significantly increasing.148 00:06:38,731 --> 00:06:42,034 Today, people are longing for trustworthy leaders.149 00:06:42,068 --> 00:06:42,568 Amen.150 00:06:42,568 --> 00:06:45,571 It's been a long time, hasn't it, for them since we've had trustworthy leaders?151 00:06:45,605 --> 00:06:47,240 Well, my goodness.152 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:50,710 Well, and the truth is, we want it, not just in government.153 00:06:50,710 --> 00:06:54,480 We want it in our workplace, we want it at our churches.154 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:57,617 We want it places that we we should have it.155 00:06:57,717 --> 00:07:01,187 I mean, we deserve it, and it should be that kind of leadership that we can trust.156 00:07:01,254 --> 00:07:05,158 The problem is, I think people are so self-centered157 00:07:05,258 --> 00:07:08,327 and so it's Oh my God, and we are insecure.158 00:07:08,461 --> 00:07:10,096 I mean, you said that for a second, and I think159 00:07:10,096 --> 00:07:12,665 it's important that we understand we aren't insecure people.160 00:07:12,732 --> 00:07:15,301 Security only comes from where careers where you think161 00:07:15,635 --> 00:07:17,637 security only comes from God.162 00:07:17,637 --> 00:07:20,239 There it is right to push a button because that's awesome.163 00:07:20,339 --> 00:07:23,276 Let's bring it on in. Yes, sir. Here we go.164 00:07:24,710 --> 00:07:28,281 Oh, Frasier, seriously, I love that one.165 00:07:29,248 --> 00:07:31,050 I love it, too.166 00:07:31,484 --> 00:07:33,586 Security only comes when you know167 00:07:33,586 --> 00:07:37,089 that you're living this life for Jesus and no one else. And168 00:07:38,458 --> 00:07:39,992 and and that's Chris.169 00:07:39,992 --> 00:07:42,195 That's the problem. We're not living for Jesus.170 00:07:42,228 --> 00:07:43,629 We don't have anyone else.171 00:07:43,629 --> 00:07:47,433 You know, Jesus accepts my stupidity and loves me anyway.172 00:07:47,433 --> 00:07:51,204 And all God's people say, Hey, man, keep rolling, Chris.173 00:07:51,204 --> 00:07:52,572 We're doing good. I like this one.174 00:07:52,572 --> 00:07:55,341 So here's the five characteristics of authentic leaders.175 00:07:55,341 --> 00:07:56,209 As we discussed,176 00:07:56,209 --> 00:07:59,912 every authentic leader is unique because they their authentic self.177 00:07:59,946 --> 00:08:02,014 But here's the five traits they all share.178 00:08:02,048 --> 00:08:04,050 Number one, they understand their purpose,179 00:08:04,050 --> 00:08:07,420 they know where they fit in, and they know what their job is to do.180 00:08:07,420 --> 00:08:11,324 And to be honest, if you don't know what your job is, leadership's really tough.181 00:08:11,357 --> 00:08:12,492 So real quick.182 00:08:12,492 --> 00:08:15,094 Rick Warren wrote the book The Purpose-Driven Church. Yes.183 00:08:15,127 --> 00:08:18,431 And he also kind of did the whole purpose driven person even.184 00:08:18,431 --> 00:08:21,868 And he talks about, You can't do what God's having you to do185 00:08:21,868 --> 00:08:24,537 unless you know what your purpose is absolutely right.186 00:08:24,570 --> 00:08:29,442 And so when we understand the demands that God gives us for our purpose187 00:08:29,442 --> 00:08:33,880 in this life, yes, we can walk with pride, we can walk with intelligence,188 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,916 we can walk with security, we can have those things.189 00:08:36,916 --> 00:08:39,151 Purpose is the one thing I think we like.190 00:08:39,185 --> 00:08:41,921 I sometimes forget my purpose and we forget our purpose.191 00:08:41,921 --> 00:08:43,122 We missed the rowboat.192 00:08:43,122 --> 00:08:46,959 The second thing that is the characteristic of all authentic leaders is193 00:08:46,959 --> 00:08:50,997 they have very strong values about the right thing to do an authentic leader,194 00:08:51,030 --> 00:08:54,333 someone that you can count on to do the right thing even when it's difficult195 00:08:54,333 --> 00:08:57,503 and it doesn't even cross your mind that they're going to do the wrong thing.196 00:08:57,503 --> 00:08:59,272 You're not going to like you said, they're not going to throw197 00:08:59,272 --> 00:09:01,374 you under the bus, they're not going to make excuses.198 00:09:01,374 --> 00:09:02,575 They're not going to blame anyone.199 00:09:02,575 --> 00:09:05,111 If something's wrong and they do, if they're going to confess to it200 00:09:05,111 --> 00:09:06,646 and they're going to make it right.201 00:09:06,646 --> 00:09:07,013 Amen.202 00:09:07,013 --> 00:09:10,516 The third thing is they create trusting relationship with others,203 00:09:10,516 --> 00:09:12,552 and that's something that other styles do as well.204 00:09:12,552 --> 00:09:14,587 And that's such an important thing of leadership.205 00:09:14,587 --> 00:09:18,558 Such an important part to have the trust of the people that follow you.206 00:09:18,558 --> 00:09:21,727 And there's no other way to build that, except by being trustworthy.207 00:09:21,761 --> 00:09:24,730 So why do you think it's hard for us to trust people?208 00:09:24,897 --> 00:09:28,434 I think we've all had bad experiences with that, and once you've seen209 00:09:28,434 --> 00:09:32,104 someone do that, something untrustworthy, you know, they're capable of that.210 00:09:32,104 --> 00:09:33,773 So it's difficult to get trust back.211 00:09:33,773 --> 00:09:35,474 I think you called it earlier.212 00:09:35,474 --> 00:09:39,345 The only way that you can earn someone's trust back is to admit your fault.213 00:09:39,378 --> 00:09:41,447 That's it and say, You know what?214 00:09:41,447 --> 00:09:44,650 I lied to you, or I fib to you or I screwed up.215 00:09:44,684 --> 00:09:45,251 Messed up.216 00:09:45,251 --> 00:09:47,920 I'm sorry, I'm doing my best to love Jesus.217 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,323 Can we do this together and those who are searching for a way218 00:09:50,323 --> 00:09:53,993 to say they can work on that together because we're going to make mistakes?219 00:09:54,026 --> 00:09:57,330 Yes, but but the hope is that we build each other up220 00:09:57,330 --> 00:09:59,699 more than we let each other down and we work together on that.221 00:09:59,732 --> 00:10:00,967 I'm sorry, but I felt that.222 00:10:00,967 --> 00:10:03,235 I mean, I just really important to me that we do that.223 00:10:03,235 --> 00:10:05,037 That was very important.224 00:10:05,037 --> 00:10:07,306 Here's the fourth thing that authentic leaders do.225 00:10:07,340 --> 00:10:11,177 They demonstrate self-discipline and they act upon their values.226 00:10:11,410 --> 00:10:14,180 So it's not good enough to only have strong values,227 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:18,050 but they demonstrate self-discipline and they act upon those values.228 00:10:18,084 --> 00:10:21,153 And that's obvious to see this person is a person of their word.229 00:10:21,387 --> 00:10:23,589 That's an authentic leader, a man.230 00:10:23,589 --> 00:10:25,691 And the last one is they act from the heart.231 00:10:25,858 --> 00:10:29,695 They're sensitive and empathetic to the plight of others, women and men.232 00:10:29,729 --> 00:10:32,365 Like we said, it's not about them. It's not about the ego.233 00:10:32,365 --> 00:10:34,300 That's 100% right.234 00:10:34,300 --> 00:10:37,136 Authentic leadership as we go on has four components.235 00:10:37,436 --> 00:10:39,805 And the first is self-awareness.236 00:10:39,805 --> 00:10:43,909 They can reflect on their core, and they also reflect on how they impact237 00:10:43,909 --> 00:10:44,644 others.238 00:10:44,644 --> 00:10:48,080 How often do you think leaders reflect on how they impact others?239 00:10:48,581 --> 00:10:50,316 I honestly don't think often.240 00:10:50,316 --> 00:10:52,718 Probably not often. But the authentic leader does.241 00:10:52,952 --> 00:10:53,819 That's good.242 00:10:53,819 --> 00:10:56,589 So do you do that and how do you do that?243 00:10:56,622 --> 00:10:57,289 I do.244 00:10:57,289 --> 00:11:01,193 I think about things that went really well and how I impacted someone,245 00:11:01,193 --> 00:11:04,397 and I mostly think about things that didn't go so well246 00:11:04,664 --> 00:11:07,833 about how maybe things I said were taken the wrong way.247 00:11:08,034 --> 00:11:11,270 Or maybe I was completely wrong in my assumption of an issue,248 00:11:11,270 --> 00:11:14,140 and it caused someone to to take a step in the wrong direction.249 00:11:14,173 --> 00:11:15,341 I think about that quite a bit.250 00:11:15,341 --> 00:11:19,779 So let me ask you this how do you not beat yourself up but learn from it?251 00:11:20,146 --> 00:11:23,382 If I tried to internalize it, I would beat myself up252 00:11:23,382 --> 00:11:24,250 and I have done that.253 00:11:24,250 --> 00:11:24,950 I knew that too.254 00:11:24,950 --> 00:11:27,219 I knew the first thing I do is what you said.255 00:11:27,219 --> 00:11:29,055 I go to them and say, This is my fault.256 00:11:29,055 --> 00:11:30,022 I did the wrong thing.257 00:11:30,022 --> 00:11:31,457 This is what I thought was happening.258 00:11:31,457 --> 00:11:33,192 But in reality, something else was happening.259 00:11:33,192 --> 00:11:34,093 It's all on me.260 00:11:34,093 --> 00:11:36,262 Let's make it right, and I'll take the heat for this.261 00:11:36,262 --> 00:11:37,997 Hey, man, any man, that's good stuff.262 00:11:37,997 --> 00:11:42,535 I think that these are important things, and you need to hear Chris on this.263 00:11:43,235 --> 00:11:47,840 It's OK to mess up, but you got to love each other through it and in leadership.264 00:11:48,107 --> 00:11:49,642 We need people who are accountable265 00:11:49,642 --> 00:11:53,412 to what the purpose of what we're trying to accomplish is Yes, man.266 00:11:54,413 --> 00:11:55,448 And there you go.267 00:11:55,448 --> 00:11:58,884 And there is another of the four components268 00:11:58,884 --> 00:12:02,388 of authentic leadership is an internalized moral perspective.269 00:12:02,388 --> 00:12:05,124 And we've talked a lot about the morals of an authentic leader.270 00:12:05,124 --> 00:12:09,595 But an authentic leader is self-regulating and doesn't bend to outside pressure.271 00:12:09,929 --> 00:12:14,500 For example, I'll put this in an example that I know of when another department272 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:18,637 puts a bull's eye on someone because they think they messed up.273 00:12:18,904 --> 00:12:22,742 The authentic leader will not sell that person out, won't throw them274 00:12:22,742 --> 00:12:23,909 under the bus.275 00:12:23,909 --> 00:12:27,580 The authentic leader will stand up for that person and go to bat for that person,276 00:12:27,747 --> 00:12:29,782 and that person knows that, and they know that277 00:12:29,782 --> 00:12:32,384 they can trust the leader to do that. Amen.278 00:12:32,451 --> 00:12:33,385 That's good stuff.279 00:12:33,385 --> 00:12:36,322 It is. That's important things that we need to hear.280 00:12:36,322 --> 00:12:38,324 I want to work for an authentic leader, don't you?281 00:12:38,324 --> 00:12:40,159 I do 100% OK.282 00:12:40,159 --> 00:12:44,497 The third component is balance processing, and what this means is they avoid283 00:12:44,497 --> 00:12:48,734 favoritism and they'll solicit viewpoints from the people that disagree with them.284 00:12:49,001 --> 00:12:50,903 And that's something a lot of people don't do.285 00:12:50,903 --> 00:12:53,639 So do you find that difficult or is that easy for you?286 00:12:53,672 --> 00:12:54,507 That's easy for me.287 00:12:54,507 --> 00:12:55,374 I've seen that.288 00:12:55,374 --> 00:12:57,109 I believe that to be true.289 00:12:57,109 --> 00:12:59,011 It's harder for me, and I appreciate that.290 00:12:59,011 --> 00:13:01,447 So why do you think that's more difficult?291 00:13:01,447 --> 00:13:03,816 Because I like it when people give me attaboys.292 00:13:03,983 --> 00:13:07,520 Let's be honest, I like, I like to feel good about myself.293 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:09,922 And sometimes when I know that there's something I need to work294 00:13:09,922 --> 00:13:12,892 on, I know you don't have to tell me, but that's not true.295 00:13:12,892 --> 00:13:14,160 I need to learn from it.296 00:13:14,160 --> 00:13:18,631 When you approach someone to work on some something, you have to do it in love297 00:13:19,064 --> 00:13:23,969 with much grace, 100% with trying to help that person become a better person.298 00:13:24,003 --> 00:13:26,839 They may not receive it well, but if you do it with the right heart,299 00:13:27,039 --> 00:13:29,108 eventually they'll come to that fair.300 00:13:29,141 --> 00:13:30,743 It's absolutely true, yes.301 00:13:30,743 --> 00:13:32,311 So I think that's good stuff.302 00:13:32,311 --> 00:13:34,547 I think that's stuff we need to apply. Good stuff.303 00:13:35,214 --> 00:13:39,885 So the last component of authentic leadership is relational transparency.304 00:13:40,119 --> 00:13:43,155 The authentic leader will share their core feelings, their motives,305 00:13:43,155 --> 00:13:46,926 their thoughts, their inclinations, positive and negative with the team.306 00:13:47,126 --> 00:13:49,495 So everyone knows why the decisions were made307 00:13:49,762 --> 00:13:52,131 and what the benefit was and what the cost was,308 00:13:52,131 --> 00:13:55,701 because the authentic leader is very open and communicates openly.309 00:13:55,901 --> 00:13:58,771 So relational transparency? Yes.310 00:13:58,938 --> 00:14:00,005 So I think that's good.311 00:14:00,005 --> 00:14:01,674 I think one of the things we struggle with,312 00:14:01,674 --> 00:14:03,742 though, is letting people see who we really are.313 00:14:03,742 --> 00:14:06,312 I heard this for a long time in ministry.314 00:14:06,745 --> 00:14:09,782 The word intimacy literally means intimacy.315 00:14:10,182 --> 00:14:14,053 Oh, so so if I'm going to be real, I have to show you that.316 00:14:14,253 --> 00:14:18,924 But I think we need to know that we need to show people who we are and as leaders,317 00:14:18,924 --> 00:14:21,961 they need to see who we are and what we believe .318 00:14:21,961 --> 00:14:24,864 So true. So anyway, there's there's a little sidebar.319 00:14:24,897 --> 00:14:25,531 I love that.320 00:14:25,531 --> 00:14:26,265 That's beautiful.321 00:14:26,265 --> 00:14:26,732 Thanks.322 00:14:26,732 --> 00:14:29,602 We've decided that authentic leadership is fantastic.323 00:14:29,602 --> 00:14:31,770 We would both love to work for an authentic leader.324 00:14:31,871 --> 00:14:32,771 Amen.325 00:14:32,771 --> 00:14:36,141 So how do we get to hear the common themes of authentic leadership326 00:14:36,141 --> 00:14:39,712 teaches that people have the capacity to learn to be an authentic leader?327 00:14:39,712 --> 00:14:43,215 So if you're not a natural, authentic leader, you can certainly learn to be one.328 00:14:43,282 --> 00:14:44,149 Amen.329 00:14:44,149 --> 00:14:46,452 Authentic leaders know how to do the right thing330 00:14:46,852 --> 00:14:51,023 and how to be honest with themselves and others, and how to work for the common331 00:14:51,023 --> 00:14:57,129 good, authentic leader has a tremendously positive impact on organizations.332 00:14:57,162 --> 00:15:01,967 So if you run a company or a huge enterprise, you want authentic leaders.333 00:15:02,001 --> 00:15:02,935 Amen.334 00:15:02,935 --> 00:15:05,938 So here's a side note there's a study in 2014335 00:15:05,938 --> 00:15:09,608 that examined the effect of authentic leadership on the followers morality.336 00:15:09,909 --> 00:15:13,078 And would you believe this study discovered that authentic leaderships337 00:15:13,279 --> 00:15:16,348 significantly reduce the followers inclinations338 00:15:16,348 --> 00:15:18,050 to make unethical choices when?339 00:15:18,050 --> 00:15:21,654 Faced with temptation, authentic leadership morally340 00:15:21,654 --> 00:15:24,657 strengthens the followers and the organization.341 00:15:24,957 --> 00:15:26,525 So in a sense, you're helping people342 00:15:26,525 --> 00:15:29,561 not to do the wrong thing just because you're an authentic leader.343 00:15:29,795 --> 00:15:31,230 Amen. Well,344 00:15:31,230 --> 00:15:35,935 it's the example that you said exactly the kind of right the ship of right?345 00:15:36,168 --> 00:15:38,203 Hey, hey, man, there you go.346 00:15:38,504 --> 00:15:40,706 So what are some of the actions of authentic leaders?347 00:15:41,206 --> 00:15:44,143 Authentic leaders continually commit to their own learning348 00:15:44,143 --> 00:15:47,379 to understand themselves as a person and how they see the world.349 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:51,650 They have a deep self-awareness and they use it as a foundation,350 00:15:51,650 --> 00:15:53,218 and that self awareness grows.351 00:15:53,218 --> 00:15:55,421 It's a lifelong journey of learning.352 00:15:55,421 --> 00:15:58,924 They use experiences and they share those with people along the way.353 00:15:59,358 --> 00:16:03,195 They resonate with others by telling stories of success and defeat.354 00:16:03,562 --> 00:16:07,967 They talk about good times and challenging times, accomplishments and setbacks.355 00:16:08,434 --> 00:16:12,604 Authentic leaders need to know who they are, but a Christian authentic356 00:16:12,604 --> 00:16:15,674 leader needs to take that a step further than just knowing who they are.357 00:16:15,708 --> 00:16:18,310 They need to know who they are. I don't preach.358 00:16:18,610 --> 00:16:19,178 That's good.359 00:16:20,713 --> 00:16:21,981 That's amen.360 00:16:21,981 --> 00:16:23,115 Amen.361 00:16:23,349 --> 00:16:26,752 Authentic leaders have the ability to get their ego out of the way362 00:16:27,219 --> 00:16:29,788 they genuinely empower and develop others.363 00:16:30,089 --> 00:16:32,691 The big ego leadership of the reality leaders364 00:16:32,691 --> 00:16:35,327 that we talked about is at the opposite end of the scale.365 00:16:35,761 --> 00:16:40,165 The first and foremost principle of authentic leadership is it's not about me.366 00:16:40,499 --> 00:16:41,633 It's not about me.367 00:16:41,633 --> 00:16:42,234 That's good.368 00:16:42,234 --> 00:16:43,002 That's good.369 00:16:43,002 --> 00:16:46,038 And so few leaders do that.370 00:16:46,038 --> 00:16:47,806 Authentic leaders influence371 00:16:47,806 --> 00:16:51,243 and inspire others by disclosing a little bit about themselves.372 00:16:51,710 --> 00:16:55,881 They instill humility, credibility and trust in those around them373 00:16:56,315 --> 00:16:59,451 by being able to lift the veil and reveal their true selves.374 00:16:59,451 --> 00:17:01,887 Authentic leaders don't want to seem superhuman.375 00:17:01,887 --> 00:17:04,323 They don't want to seem like they don't mess up.376 00:17:04,323 --> 00:17:07,860 They want to seem like someone who daggone it tries their hardest every day.377 00:17:08,027 --> 00:17:09,762 Chris, I think you're good at this.378 00:17:09,762 --> 00:17:13,665 I've I've seen that in our friendship and our I've seen that in you as well.379 00:17:13,665 --> 00:17:16,201 In every aspect of life, you have to do that.380 00:17:16,235 --> 00:17:20,272 It's always love in Christ in employing this leadership example381 00:17:20,272 --> 00:17:22,307 in everything that makes sense or not.382 00:17:22,307 --> 00:17:23,475 It absolutely does.383 00:17:23,475 --> 00:17:23,842 I love that.384 00:17:23,842 --> 00:17:26,545 That makes a lot of sense, and that leads into what I want to say.385 00:17:26,545 --> 00:17:30,716 The followers of an authentic leader don't follow because of the leader's386 00:17:30,716 --> 00:17:35,220 manipulation, and they don't follow because of the carrot and stick strategy.387 00:17:35,621 --> 00:17:38,424 We hear that in business all the time, it's the carrot or the stick,388 00:17:38,424 --> 00:17:41,794 but the authentic leader doesn't use any one of those. OK?389 00:17:41,827 --> 00:17:45,230 They only follow the leader because of the authentic leader's influence.390 00:17:45,230 --> 00:17:46,799 And that's it. Amen.391 00:17:46,799 --> 00:17:50,636 And I mean, so now here's the big question how can leaders cultivate392 00:17:50,636 --> 00:17:52,671 authentic leadership selves?393 00:17:52,671 --> 00:17:53,672 That's a good question.394 00:17:53,672 --> 00:17:56,008 You know, there's a lot of ways and a lot of activities395 00:17:56,008 --> 00:17:58,844 a leader can engage in to increase their authenticity.396 00:17:58,877 --> 00:18:00,712 And here's four that came to me really quick397 00:18:00,712 --> 00:18:03,882 and when we were doing this explore your life story!398 00:18:04,149 --> 00:18:04,983 Authentic leaders399 00:18:04,983 --> 00:18:09,254 can benefit a lot from self-discovery as a means of becoming more authentic.400 00:18:09,688 --> 00:18:12,291 They need to process their experiences and make sense of what401 00:18:12,291 --> 00:18:14,860 they've been through and rediscover their true selves.402 00:18:15,260 --> 00:18:17,096 When you delve into your own self-awareness,403 00:18:17,096 --> 00:18:21,100 you become more capable of being yourself and allow others to see that side of you.404 00:18:21,500 --> 00:18:23,268 And I've I've seen that in you so many times.405 00:18:23,268 --> 00:18:26,238 When you tell stories about your life, your history, your past,406 00:18:26,438 --> 00:18:29,341 you increase your authentic leadership and it really connects with people.407 00:18:29,408 --> 00:18:30,375 I appreciate that.408 00:18:30,375 --> 00:18:33,345 In Bible college, you would buy these illustration books409 00:18:33,345 --> 00:18:34,880 and you'd read illustrations.410 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,182 I think sometimes the greatest illustrations are the411 00:18:37,216 --> 00:18:39,751 is the life that you're living. Yes, it is. Yes.412 00:18:39,751 --> 00:18:43,989 You know, sometimes I use an amen, and sometimes I have to be careful.413 00:18:44,022 --> 00:18:46,692 I sometimes want to use my kids too much, so I have to make sure414 00:18:47,593 --> 00:18:49,628 that I always get it OK with them.415 00:18:49,628 --> 00:18:50,662 But I think it's important416 00:18:50,662 --> 00:18:54,933 that you use the things around you and you talk about that in a real way417 00:18:55,100 --> 00:18:56,902 because you can relate to people418 00:18:56,902 --> 00:18:58,937 because you're dealing with some of the same stuff they are.419 00:18:59,004 --> 00:19:02,608 See, that is exactly authentic leadership right there, and you are so good at that.420 00:19:02,741 --> 00:19:03,909 Checks in the mail. Thank you.421 00:19:05,978 --> 00:19:06,979 Here they go.422 00:19:06,979 --> 00:19:09,982 Oh, no, that guy, I love him.423 00:19:10,916 --> 00:19:12,951 Another way to improve your authentic424 00:19:12,951 --> 00:19:16,088 leadership ability is to allow time for reflection.425 00:19:16,388 --> 00:19:20,459 It's so critical to take a step back and be introspective in 1000426 00:19:20,459 --> 00:19:21,793 mile an hour world.427 00:19:21,793 --> 00:19:23,929 That's right, and by devoting time to reflection,428 00:19:23,929 --> 00:19:27,733 you will better understand your value to become a more effective leader.429 00:19:27,933 --> 00:19:32,237 So you got to set aside time to reflect without your phone or a task list430 00:19:32,237 --> 00:19:34,273 and examine how you live your life and interact431 00:19:34,273 --> 00:19:36,575 with the people around you to be more authentic.432 00:19:36,675 --> 00:19:40,879 I tell you, I think this is going to be harder as kids are growing up.433 00:19:40,879 --> 00:19:43,482 Yes, because they are so connected to their phones.434 00:19:43,715 --> 00:19:45,851 Oh yeah, my kids too. I mean, we all are.435 00:19:45,884 --> 00:19:48,053 Is that fair? As I said that my phone was ringing.436 00:19:49,988 --> 00:19:51,156 It was it.437 00:19:51,456 --> 00:19:54,526 We are so connected and we have to be careful to438 00:19:54,593 --> 00:19:57,829 to not use this phone and use all these things distract us.439 00:19:57,829 --> 00:20:01,567 But as a tool, I think and I think sometimes we don't do that enough anyway.440 00:20:01,600 --> 00:20:03,669 You're absolutely my $0.02. So.441 00:20:03,702 --> 00:20:05,270 And that was a good one. Thanks.442 00:20:05,270 --> 00:20:09,441 So here's another authentic leaders always solicit feedback.443 00:20:09,741 --> 00:20:10,709 The understand that444 00:20:10,709 --> 00:20:14,379 in order to be effective, they must understand how others perceive them.445 00:20:14,580 --> 00:20:16,715 And it may not be the way you think they do.446 00:20:17,049 --> 00:20:19,985 So you got to seek out candid feedback and act on it.447 00:20:19,985 --> 00:20:21,787 It will help you grow and develop.448 00:20:21,787 --> 00:20:25,724 Authentic leaders want to improve and change for the benefit of their employees,449 00:20:26,058 --> 00:20:29,828 which is surrounding themselves with people who will provide candid feedback.450 00:20:30,095 --> 00:20:32,764 That's good. Well, and it can be difficult to.451 00:20:32,764 --> 00:20:36,134 Even in this podcast, Chris is trying to get feedback on452 00:20:36,134 --> 00:20:40,339 how we can be better at this and how we can help you guys in your leadership walk.453 00:20:40,372 --> 00:20:43,976 And so we're trying that, and there's ways that you can think that we do it.454 00:20:43,976 --> 00:20:45,277 How can they get ahold of us, Chris?455 00:20:45,277 --> 00:20:46,812 Go to lead 1212 dot com.456 00:20:46,812 --> 00:20:48,780 You can contact us right there, OK?457 00:20:48,780 --> 00:20:52,751 Just had to do that plug because we really do want to get better, right? Yes.458 00:20:53,018 --> 00:20:54,186 That'd be a good omen.459 00:20:54,186 --> 00:20:55,120 Come back.460 00:20:55,120 --> 00:20:57,756 Oh my aching back. It's a good one.461 00:20:58,190 --> 00:21:01,760 Here's the last study your own leadership style.462 00:21:01,994 --> 00:21:04,496 Genuine leaders are aware of the leadership styles463 00:21:04,496 --> 00:21:06,231 that come naturally to them.464 00:21:06,231 --> 00:21:08,967 They're aware of their situation and they're aware of the people465 00:21:08,967 --> 00:21:11,036 that they manage, and they can adapt their style466 00:21:11,036 --> 00:21:13,905 as necessary while remaining true to themselves.467 00:21:14,306 --> 00:21:17,976 Think about this Flexible styles are not inauthentic468 00:21:18,243 --> 00:21:21,480 because they originate from a genuine place and our extension469 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:25,584 of the compassion and heart that leaders need to connect with their employees.470 00:21:25,617 --> 00:21:26,218 Amen.471 00:21:26,218 --> 00:21:27,886 Authentic leaders can be472 00:21:27,886 --> 00:21:31,857 the one thing that the followers can count on thicker than good or bad.473 00:21:31,857 --> 00:21:34,559 They know they can count on their authentic leader. That's good.474 00:21:34,793 --> 00:21:35,927 That's really good.475 00:21:35,927 --> 00:21:38,497 Oh, I want to mention Dave, that we've got an authentic leadership476 00:21:38,497 --> 00:21:42,167 quiz on the lead 1212 website that can rate your abilities477 00:21:42,167 --> 00:21:45,270 to an authentic leadership area and let you know exactly where you.478 00:21:45,304 --> 00:21:46,338 You need to work.479 00:21:46,338 --> 00:21:49,908 Just go to lead 1212 VCOP kind of echo everything.480 00:21:50,108 --> 00:21:53,078 Some scripture I was thinking of is John, ten, ten and eleven.481 00:21:53,445 --> 00:21:55,681 And it's important that we put this to walk.482 00:21:55,714 --> 00:21:58,150 And so this is kind of, I don't know, this kind of hit me.483 00:21:58,483 --> 00:22:01,787 The thief comes to only still and kill and destroy.484 00:22:01,820 --> 00:22:05,390 So when you're not your authentic self, Satan wins485 00:22:05,524 --> 00:22:08,794 because ho absolutely wants you to be anything but God. Yes.486 00:22:08,827 --> 00:22:11,663 And the only way that you can be yourself is to be guys.487 00:22:11,830 --> 00:22:16,301 Jesus says, I have come that you may have life and have it to the fullest. Yes.488 00:22:16,368 --> 00:22:19,204 one step further, he goes, I am the Good Shepherd.489 00:22:19,204 --> 00:22:22,074 The Good Shepherd lays down his life for his sheep.490 00:22:22,074 --> 00:22:24,576 Verse eleven. Oh, that's beautiful. That was perfect.491 00:22:24,643 --> 00:22:27,079 And here's the thing, Chris, that I think we messed up on.492 00:22:27,112 --> 00:22:29,281 I don't know about you, but if you could pick any animal493 00:22:29,281 --> 00:22:31,249 that you could be, what animal would you pick?494 00:22:31,249 --> 00:22:32,184 That's a good question.495 00:22:32,184 --> 00:22:33,685 I'd have to give it some thought right away.496 00:22:33,685 --> 00:22:35,787 I think a bear comes to see. I'm right.497 00:22:35,787 --> 00:22:38,557 I'm thinking, I'm thinking an elephant so I could just step on somebody.498 00:22:38,557 --> 00:22:43,528 It's a big it's a big guy thing or for a walrus because I love a walrus,499 00:22:43,528 --> 00:22:45,630 because they slap their belly and they spirit people.500 00:22:46,398 --> 00:22:47,032 Yeah, thank you.501 00:22:49,468 --> 00:22:51,236 But what does God tell us?502 00:22:51,236 --> 00:22:54,039 What an animal are we that God tells us we are sheep?503 00:22:54,039 --> 00:22:55,607 Sheep. Yes, exactly.504 00:22:55,607 --> 00:22:57,709 What is the sheep? Do they bear?505 00:22:57,709 --> 00:22:58,910 The only way sheep do?506 00:22:58,910 --> 00:23:01,012 Any thing is that they're under shepherd's care. Yes.507 00:23:01,179 --> 00:23:02,114 And they do what?508 00:23:02,114 --> 00:23:02,714 You say it again.509 00:23:02,714 --> 00:23:05,417 They say bad, but that's so uncool, right?510 00:23:05,517 --> 00:23:06,518 It is cruel.511 00:23:06,518 --> 00:23:10,088 And guess why we are and the authentic leaders on call?512 00:23:10,088 --> 00:23:11,022 That's beautiful.513 00:23:11,022 --> 00:23:13,191 And when we are guides, we are, we aren't.514 00:23:13,191 --> 00:23:15,794 We are his sheep where under the shepherd's care,515 00:23:16,128 --> 00:23:18,497 and that's the only way to be our authentic self.516 00:23:18,497 --> 00:23:19,364 So true.517 00:23:19,364 --> 00:23:21,700 We hope you guys have an awesome week.518 00:23:21,700 --> 00:23:23,468 If there's any way we can bless you.519 00:23:23,468 --> 00:23:24,369 Let us know.520 00:23:24,369 --> 00:23:27,139 Work at being your authentic self for Christ. Be a sheep.521 00:23:29,508 --> 00:23:30,242 This is an522 00:23:30,242 --> 00:23:33,044 LBC production which stands for LB.523 00:23:33,245 --> 00:23:37,716 If you knew that or not, but it also stands for laughing because we're safe.524 00:23:37,916 --> 00:23:41,353 But we kind of like the pounds, so Chris will lift them525 00:23:41,353 --> 00:23:44,423 and I will gain them and we will have a great time.526 00:23:44,423 --> 00:23:45,157 Thanks for listening.