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This is Lead 12:12,2
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a podcast on Christ centered leadership
based on Romans 12:12.3
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Rejoice and hope.4
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Be patient and tribulation,
be constant in prayer.5
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Thanks for listening.6
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Now here's Chris and Dave.7
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Hey everybody.8
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It's good to see you. Well,
I don't see you, actually.9
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It's good to be here with you.
Hopefully, you're doing good.10
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You had a great Christmas
looking for the new year.11
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We hope you have a great new year,12
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and we're excited just to talk to you
for a few minutes on leadership.13
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Thanks for putting up with us.14
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So here's my friend Chris.15
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Thank you. David,
did you have a good Christmas.16
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I had an incredible Christmas,
blessed way better than I deserve.17
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Oh, me too.18
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That's just wonderful.
It makes my heart happy. Hey, man.19
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And I'm in.20
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So, Dave, we're going to talk about
the authentic leadership approach.21
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It's awesome.22
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This is one of the newest leadership
approaches.23
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In fact, it is the newest leadership
approach available, and because of that,24
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there's not a tremendous amount of studies
available on it.25
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I gotcha.26
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That's great.27
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Dave, you know, we live in an era
in which the distinction between reality28
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and authenticity has become
completely blurred and ambiguous.29
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100%.30
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Have you seen a TV show about strangers
marrying strangers,31
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or maybe celebrity housewives and husbands
or one family keeping up with another?32
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There's a ton of those out there.33
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Yeah, there's a lot,
and it's not a good way to do life.34
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No, honestly, believe it or not,
those reality TV shows typically don't35
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bear any resemblance to the realities
most of us live or experience daily.36
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Amen. Good point.37
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So I want to start with
something called a reality leader.38
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What is a reality leader and how is it
different than an authentic leader? Go.39
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I'm excited.40
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A reality leader is on television,
and maybe you've met one in real life.41
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Leadership is entirely about them.42
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Followers exist only to serve them.43
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They love soundbites,
photo ops and handshakes,44
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and they say things because they believe
it's what the public wants to hear.45
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They practice something that I like
to call invisible transparency,46
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which means they are transparent
only about the information47
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they want you to know
and only when it benefits them.48
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That's good.49
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With that in hand, you know,50
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I've been in ministry for almost
25 years or more, and there are guys51
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that are in the ministry just because they
they like to be seen.52
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Yes. And see,53
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I think that's part of the problem54
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because it shouldn't be about us
being same about God's being seen in us55
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and it's not about anything else but that.56
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But I do think we have that.57
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My favorite thing,
I'm sure we used to hear what is an ego.58
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It's edging got out, edging God.
And I really love this.59
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So when you're all about you,
you're edging.60
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Got out, you're not.61
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And he may come on now.62
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Come on, I'm about ready
to throw something down here, right?63
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But it's important that we get that
because I think we need to understand64
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it's not about us. Exactly.65
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Can't be about us,
especially in Christian leadership.66
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It has to be about giving God the glory.67
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God, you are on fire and it's good.68
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You are one step ahead
on authentic leadership,69
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but unfortunately
the reality leaders are everywhere.70
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They're at work and school.71
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And like you said, yeah, many
even at church.72
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Yep, they are.73
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They have mastered
the art of excluding God.74
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That's the biggest message
you can get into when you exclude God.75
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So now that we know what reality
leadership is, what is authentic76
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leadership,
authentic leadership is not about the ego.77
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Here's a great example.78
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Jesus did not puff out his chest
and demand everyone do his wishes79
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because he's the boss.80
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That's right.
He could have. Because he was. Absolutely.81
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And when you think of humility
who embodies that more than Jesus,82
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he laid down his life for every one of us.83
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He did
so authentic leadership was founded by84
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a person named Bill George,
and this only started in 2003.85
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The premise behind authentic leadership86
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is that the key to being a successful
leader is being yourself.87
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And here's a couple of quotes for you.88
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first one is from Hamlet
and Shakespeare to thine own self be true.89
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But now here's another interesting quote.90
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I had no idea that being your authentic
self could make me91
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as rich as I have become.92
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And if I had, I would have done it
a lot earlier.93
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That's from Oprah Winfrey.94
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Wow, that's interesting.95
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That's very
I did not see that quote coming.96
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She's her authentic self
and took her a while to get there.97
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But that's who she is.98
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Well, and I do think that's who
we should be is our authentic self,99
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not Oprah Winfrey,
but we should be authentic self for Jesus.100
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So it should thank you.101
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Thank you very much. Genuine.102
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This is a central component
of authentic leadership,103
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and that means that each
authentic leader is unique.104
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No two authentic leaders are alike.105
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However, there are several characteristics
that they all share.106
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Even though each one's different,
they all have these characteristics.107
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The first one is that108
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they consistently demonstrate behaviors
that inspire trust in others.109
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Amen. Amen.110
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The second one is what I think separates
a lot of leaders from authentic leaders.111
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They take ownership of their own actions,112
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and when they make a mistake,
they take responsibility for their errors.113
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Amen. All Christian principles.114
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These are all Christ centered principles,115
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exactly what we try to do
every every time we come on.116
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This is to give people. Samples,
and that's perfect.117
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You're absolutely right.118
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Yeah, that's that's where you go in that
that that's all you right there.119
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You got that applause.120
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The last one of these characteristics
is they demonstrate the necessary courage121
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to advance up the leadership ladder122
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and to challenge the status quo
or to defend their people and processes.123
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That's right.
They won't throw you under the bus.124
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They don't sell you out
and their word is their bond.125
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That's hard to find.126
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The day, Chris is guys are people
that they won't throw you under the bus.127
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It's not about them.
And when they get in trouble,128
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they take the blame
and the world we live in today.129
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So many times
it's like we blame everything130
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and we play the blame game
on every aspect of life.131
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Even Christians do this,132
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and this is something
that we can't do anymore133
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because sometimes we need to own up
to, well, you know what?134
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I just messed up.135
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I just made a mistake and say, Hey,136
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well, I'm Christian, I you and I've taught
this time we're going to screw up.137
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That's why that's right.138
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But if we screw up and we own it,
God will bless tenfold.139
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I believe that with all my heart. Don't
you think so?140
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I absolutely believe that 100%.141
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So speaking of what you were talking about
and this really carries over.142
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Studies have found that today143
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people are very insecure
about what's going on around them.144
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You know, the shape of the world
we're in, right?145
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What's been going on?146
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And as a result of that,147
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the need for authentic
leadership is significantly increasing.148
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Today, people are longing for trustworthy
leaders.149
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Amen.150
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It's been a long time, hasn't it, for them
since we've had trustworthy leaders?151
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Well, my goodness.152
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Well, and the truth is, we want it,
not just in government.153
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We want it in our workplace,
we want it at our churches.154
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We want it places that we
we should have it.155
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I mean, we deserve it, and it should be
that kind of leadership that we can trust.156
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The problem is,
I think people are so self-centered157
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and so it's
Oh my God, and we are insecure.158
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I mean, you said that for a second,
and I think159
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it's important that we understand
we aren't insecure people.160
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Security only comes from where careers
where you think161
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security only comes from God.162
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There it is right to push a button
because that's awesome.163
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Let's
bring it on in. Yes, sir. Here we go.164
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Oh, Frasier, seriously, I love that one.165
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I love it, too.166
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Security only comes when you know167
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that you're living this life for Jesus
and no one else. And168
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and and that's Chris.169
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That's the problem.
We're not living for Jesus.170
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We don't have anyone else.171
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You know, Jesus accepts
my stupidity and loves me anyway.172
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And all God's people
say, Hey, man, keep rolling, Chris.173
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We're doing good. I like this one.174
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So here's the five characteristics
of authentic leaders.175
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As we discussed,176
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every authentic leader is unique
because they their authentic self.177
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But here's the five traits they all share.178
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Number one, they understand their purpose,179
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they know where they fit in,
and they know what their job is to do.180
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And to be honest, if you don't know what
your job is, leadership's really tough.181
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So real quick.182
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Rick Warren wrote the book
The Purpose-Driven Church. Yes.183
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And he also kind of did
the whole purpose driven person even.184
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And he talks about,
You can't do what God's having you to do185
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unless you know what
your purpose is absolutely right.186
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And so when we understand the demands
that God gives us for our purpose187
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in this life, yes, we can walk with pride,
we can walk with intelligence,188
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we can walk with security,
we can have those things.189
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Purpose is the one thing I think we like.190
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I sometimes forget my purpose
and we forget our purpose.191
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We missed the rowboat.192
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The second thing that is the
characteristic of all authentic leaders is193
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they have very strong values about
the right thing to do an authentic leader,194
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someone that you can count on to do
the right thing even when it's difficult195
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and it doesn't even cross your mind
that they're going to do the wrong thing.196
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You're not going to like you said,
they're not going to throw197
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you under the bus,
they're not going to make excuses.198
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They're not going to blame anyone.199
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If something's wrong and they do,
if they're going to confess to it200
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and they're going to make it right.201
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Amen.202
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The third thing is they create
trusting relationship with others,203
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and that's something that other styles
do as well.204
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And that's
such an important thing of leadership.205
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Such an important part to have the trust
of the people that follow you.206
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And there's no other way to build that,
except by being trustworthy.207
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So why do you think it's hard
for us to trust people?208
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I think we've all had bad experiences
with that, and once you've seen209
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someone do that, something untrustworthy,
you know, they're capable of that.210
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So it's difficult to get trust back.211
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I think you called it earlier.212
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The only way that you can earn someone's
trust back is to admit your fault.213
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That's it and say, You know what?214
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I lied to you, or I fib to you
or I screwed up.215
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Messed up.216
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I'm sorry, I'm doing my best to love
Jesus.217
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Can we do this together
and those who are searching for a way218
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to say they can work on that together
because we're going to make mistakes?219
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Yes, but but the hope is that
we build each other up220
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more than we let each other down
and we work together on that.221
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I'm sorry, but I felt that.222
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I mean, I just really important to me
that we do that.223
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That was very important.224
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Here's the fourth thing
that authentic leaders do.225
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They demonstrate self-discipline
and they act upon their values.226
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So it's not good enough
to only have strong values,227
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but they demonstrate self-discipline
and they act upon those values.228
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And that's obvious to see
this person is a person of their word.229
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That's an authentic leader, a man.230
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And the last one
is they act from the heart.231
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They're sensitive and empathetic
to the plight of others, women and men.232
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Like we said, it's not about them. It's
not about the ego.233
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That's 100% right.234
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Authentic leadership
as we go on has four components.235
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And the first is self-awareness.236
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They can reflect on their core,
and they also reflect on how they impact237
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others.238
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How often do you think leaders
reflect on how they impact others?239
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I honestly don't think often.240
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Probably not often.
But the authentic leader does.241
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That's good.242
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So do you do that and how do you do that?243
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I do.244
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I think about things that went really well
and how I impacted someone,245
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and I mostly think about things
that didn't go so well246
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about how maybe things
I said were taken the wrong way.247
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Or maybe I was completely wrong
in my assumption of an issue,248
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and it caused someone to
to take a step in the wrong direction.249
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I think about that quite a bit.250
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So let me ask you this how do you not
beat yourself up but learn from it?251
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If I tried to internalize it,
I would beat myself up252
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and I have done that.253
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I knew that too.254
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I knew the first thing I do
is what you said.255
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I go to them and say, This is my fault.256
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I did the wrong thing.257
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This is what I thought was happening.258
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But in reality,
something else was happening.259
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It's all on me.260
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Let's make it right,
and I'll take the heat for this.261
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Hey, man, any man, that's good stuff.262
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I think that these are important things,
and you need to hear Chris on this.263
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It's OK to mess up, but you got to love
each other through it and in leadership.264
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We need people who are accountable265
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to what the purpose of what
we're trying to accomplish is Yes, man.266
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And there you go.267
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And there
is another of the four components268
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of authentic leadership
is an internalized moral perspective.269
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And we've talked a lot
about the morals of an authentic leader.270
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But an authentic leader is self-regulating
and doesn't bend to outside pressure.271
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For example, I'll put this in an example
that I know of when another department272
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puts a bull's eye on someone
because they think they messed up.273
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The authentic leader will not sell
that person out, won't throw them274
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under the bus.275
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The authentic leader will stand up for
that person and go to bat for that person,276
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and that person knows that,
and they know that277
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they can trust the leader
to do that. Amen.278
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That's good stuff.279
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It is. That's important things
that we need to hear.280
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I want to work for an authentic leader,
don't you?281
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I do 100% OK.282
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The third component is balance processing,
and what this means is they avoid283
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favoritism and they'll solicit viewpoints
from the people that disagree with them.284
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And that's something
a lot of people don't do.285
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So do you find that difficult
or is that easy for you?286
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That's easy for me.287
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I've seen that.288
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I believe that to be true.289
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It's harder for me, and I appreciate that.290
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So why do you think that's more difficult?291
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Because I like it
when people give me attaboys.292
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Let's be honest, I like,
I like to feel good about myself.293
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And sometimes when I know
that there's something I need to work294
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on, I know you don't have to tell me,
but that's not true.295
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I need to learn from it.296
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When you approach someone to work on some
something, you have to do it in love297
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with much grace, 100% with trying to help
that person become a better person.298
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They may not receive it well,
but if you do it with the right heart,299
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eventually they'll come to that fair.300
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It's absolutely true, yes.301
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So I think that's good stuff.302
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I think that's stuff
we need to apply. Good stuff.303
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So the last component of authentic
leadership is relational transparency.304
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The authentic leader will share their core
feelings, their motives,305
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their thoughts, their inclinations,
positive and negative with the team.306
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So everyone knows
why the decisions were made307
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and what the benefit was
and what the cost was,308
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because the authentic leader
is very open and communicates openly.309
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So relational transparency? Yes.310
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So I think that's good.311
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I think one of the things we struggle
with,312
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though, is letting people
see who we really are.313
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I heard this for a long time in ministry.314
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The word intimacy
literally means intimacy.315
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Oh, so so if I'm going to be real,
I have to show you that.316
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But I think we need to know that we need
to show people who we are and as leaders,317
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they need to see who we are
and what we believe .318
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So true. So anyway,
there's there's a little sidebar.319
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I love that.320
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That's beautiful.321
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Thanks.322
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We've decided
that authentic leadership is fantastic.323
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We would both love to work
for an authentic leader.324
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Amen.325
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So how do we get to hear the common
themes of authentic leadership326
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teaches that people have the capacity
to learn to be an authentic leader?327
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So if you're not a natural, authentic
leader, you can certainly learn to be one.328
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Amen.329
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Authentic leaders
know how to do the right thing330
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and how to be honest with themselves
and others, and how to work for the common331
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good, authentic leader has a tremendously
positive impact on organizations.332
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So if you run a company or a huge
enterprise, you want authentic leaders.333
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Amen.334
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So here's a side note
there's a study in 2014335
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that examined the effect of authentic
leadership on the followers morality.336
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And would you believe this study
discovered that authentic leaderships337
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significantly reduce the followers
inclinations338
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to make unethical choices when?339
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Faced with temptation,
authentic leadership morally340
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strengthens
the followers and the organization.341
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So in a sense, you're helping people342
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not to do the wrong thing
just because you're an authentic leader.343
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Amen. Well,344
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it's the example that you said exactly
the kind of right the ship of right?345
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Hey, hey, man, there you go.346
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So what are some of the actions
of authentic leaders?347
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Authentic leaders
continually commit to their own learning348
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to understand themselves as a person
and how they see the world.349
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They have a deep self-awareness
and they use it as a foundation,350
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and that self awareness grows.351
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It's a lifelong journey of learning.352
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They use experiences and they share those
with people along the way.353
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They resonate with others
by telling stories of success and defeat.354
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They talk about good times and challenging
times, accomplishments and setbacks.355
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Authentic leaders need to know who
they are, but a Christian authentic356
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leader needs to take that a step further
than just knowing who they are.357
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They need to know who they are.
I don't preach.358
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That's good.359
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That's amen.360
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Amen.361
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Authentic leaders have the ability
to get their ego out of the way362
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they genuinely empower and develop others.363
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The big ego
leadership of the reality leaders364
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that we talked about is at the opposite
end of the scale.365
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The first and foremost principle of
authentic leadership is it's not about me.366
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It's not about me.367
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That's good.368
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That's good.369
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And so few leaders do that.370
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Authentic leaders influence371
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and inspire others by disclosing
a little bit about themselves.372
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They instill humility, credibility
and trust in those around them373
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by being able to lift the veil
and reveal their true selves.374
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Authentic leaders
don't want to seem superhuman.375
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They don't want to seem like
they don't mess up.376
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They want to seem like someone who daggone
it tries their hardest every day.377
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Chris, I think you're good at this.378
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I've I've seen that in our friendship
and our I've seen that in you as well.379
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In every aspect of life,
you have to do that.380
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It's always love in Christ
in employing this leadership example381
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in everything that makes sense or not.382
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It absolutely does.383
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I love that.384
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That makes a lot of sense,
and that leads into what I want to say.385
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The followers of an authentic leader
don't follow because of the leader's386
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manipulation, and they don't follow
because of the carrot and stick strategy.387
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We hear that in business all the time,
it's the carrot or the stick,388
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but the authentic leader doesn't use
any one of those. OK?389
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They only follow the leader because of
the authentic leader's influence.390
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And that's it. Amen.391
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And I mean, so now here's the big question
how can leaders cultivate392
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authentic leadership selves?393
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That's a good question.394
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You know, there's a lot of ways
and a lot of activities395
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a leader can engage in
to increase their authenticity.396
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And here's four
that came to me really quick397
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and when we were doing this
explore your life story!398
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Authentic leaders399
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can benefit a lot from self-discovery
as a means of becoming more authentic.400
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They need to process their experiences
and make sense of what401
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they've been through and rediscover
their true selves.402
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When you delve
into your own self-awareness,403
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you become more capable of being yourself
and allow others to see that side of you.404
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And I've I've seen that in you
so many times.405
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When you tell stories about your life,
your history, your past,406
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you increase your authentic leadership
and it really connects with people.407
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I appreciate that.408
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In Bible college,
you would buy these illustration books409
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and you'd read illustrations.410
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I think sometimes
the greatest illustrations are the411
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is the life that you're living.
Yes, it is. Yes.412
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You know, sometimes I use an amen,
and sometimes I have to be careful.413
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I sometimes want to use my kids too much,
so I have to make sure414
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that I always get it OK with them.415
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But I think it's important416
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that you use the things around you
and you talk about that in a real way417
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because you can relate to people418
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because you're dealing
with some of the same stuff they are.419
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See, that is exactly authentic leadership
right there, and you are so good at that.420
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Checks in the mail. Thank you.421
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Here they go.422
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Oh, no, that guy, I love him.423
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Another way to improve your authentic424
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leadership
ability is to allow time for reflection.425
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It's so critical to take a step back
and be introspective in 1000426
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mile an hour world.427
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That's right,
and by devoting time to reflection,428
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you will better understand your value
to become a more effective leader.429
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So you got to set aside time to reflect
without your phone or a task list430
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and examine
how you live your life and interact431
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with the people around you
to be more authentic.432
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I tell you, I think this is going to be
harder as kids are growing up.433
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Yes, because they are so connected
to their phones.434
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Oh yeah, my kids too. I mean, we all are.435
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Is that fair?
As I said that my phone was ringing.436
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It was it.437
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We are so connected
and we have to be careful to438
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to not use this phone
and use all these things distract us.439
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But as a tool, I think and I think
sometimes we don't do that enough anyway.440
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You're absolutely my $0.02. So.441
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And that was a good one. Thanks.442
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So here's another authentic leaders
always solicit feedback.443
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The understand that444
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in order to be effective, they must
understand how others perceive them.445
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And it may not be the way
you think they do.446
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So you got to seek out
candid feedback and act on it.447
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It will help you grow and develop.448
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Authentic leaders want to improve and
change for the benefit of their employees,449
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which is surrounding themselves with
people who will provide candid feedback.450
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That's good. Well,
and it can be difficult to.451
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Even in this podcast,
Chris is trying to get feedback on452
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how we can be better at this and how we
can help you guys in your leadership walk.453
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And so we're trying that, and there's ways
that you can think that we do it.454
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How can they get ahold of us, Chris?455
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Go to lead 1212 dot com.456
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You can contact us right there, OK?457
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Just had to do that plug because we really
do want to get better, right? Yes.458
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That'd be a good omen.459
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Come back.460
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Oh my aching back. It's a good one.461
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Here's the last study
your own leadership style.462
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Genuine
leaders are aware of the leadership styles463
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that come naturally to them.464
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They're aware of their situation
and they're aware of the people465
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that they manage,
and they can adapt their style466
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as necessary
while remaining true to themselves.467
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Think about this
Flexible styles are not inauthentic468
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because they originate
from a genuine place and our extension469
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of the compassion and heart that leaders
need to connect with their employees.470
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Amen.471
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Authentic leaders can be472
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the one thing that the followers
can count on thicker than good or bad.473
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They know they can count
on their authentic leader. That's good.474
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That's really good.475
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Oh, I want to mention Dave,
that we've got an authentic leadership476
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quiz on the lead 1212 website
that can rate your abilities477
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to an authentic leadership area
and let you know exactly where you.478
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You need to work.479
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Just go to lead 1212 VCOP kind of echo
everything.480
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Some scripture I was thinking of
is John, ten, ten and eleven.481
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And it's important
that we put this to walk.482
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And so this is kind of,
I don't know, this kind of hit me.483
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The thief comes to only still
and kill and destroy.484
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So when you're not your authentic self,
Satan wins485
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because ho absolutely wants you
to be anything but God. Yes.486
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And the only way that you can be
yourself is to be guys.487
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Jesus says, I have come that you may
have life and have it to the fullest. Yes.488
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one step further, he goes,
I am the Good Shepherd.489
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The Good Shepherd
lays down his life for his sheep.490
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Verse eleven. Oh, that's beautiful.
That was perfect.491
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And here's the thing, Chris,
that I think we messed up on.492
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I don't know about you,
but if you could pick any animal493
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that you could be,
what animal would you pick?494
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That's a good question.495
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I'd have to give it some thought
right away.496
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I think a bear comes to see. I'm right.497
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I'm thinking, I'm thinking an elephant
so I could just step on somebody.498
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It's a big it's a big guy thing
or for a walrus because I love a walrus,499
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because they slap their belly
and they spirit people.500
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Yeah, thank you.501
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But what does God tell us?502
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What an animal are we that God tells us
we are sheep?503
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Sheep. Yes, exactly.504
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What is the sheep? Do they bear?505
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The only way sheep do?506
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Any thing is
that they're under shepherd's care. Yes.507
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And they do what?508
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You say it again.509
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They say bad, but that's so uncool, right?510
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It is cruel.511
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And guess why we are
and the authentic leaders on call?512
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That's beautiful.513
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And when we are guides, we are, we aren't.514
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We are his sheep
where under the shepherd's care,515
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and that's the only way
to be our authentic self.516
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So true.517
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We hope you guys have an awesome week.518
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If there's any way we can bless you.519
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Let us know.520
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Work at being your authentic
self for Christ. Be a sheep.521
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This is an522
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LBC production which stands for LB.523
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If you knew that or not, but it also
stands for laughing because we're safe.524
00:23:37,916 --> 00:23:41,353
But we kind of like the pounds,
so Chris will lift them525
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and I will gain them
and we will have a great time.526
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Thanks for listening.
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